Time-outs. Grounding. Taking away screen time. Does it feel like your attempts to discipline your child often result in power struggles, yelling, lecturing, and threatening? Does parenting with punishments end up making everyone feel worse? In this thought-provoking TEDx talk, Parenting and Leadership Coach, Dr. Chrissy Chard explores how and why punishments are counterproductive. She then offers a transformative and accessible alternative rooted in trust and connection, sharing how to teach discipline through responsiveness, reflection, and repair.
Dr. Chrissy Chard (she/they) is a leader grounded in the values of courage, connection, and love. She wears many hats, including being the founder of Courageous Parents, a Colorado-based parent coaching practice. Through an individualized, values-based approach, she supports parents in their own healing journey so they may do the important work of raising the next generation of social change agents. Chrissy also directs an Advanced Leadership Training Program where they support public health and environmental health leaders to develop heart-centered leadership skills. She is also the co-founder of Smart Fit Girls, a non-profit organization dedicated to supporting the health and well-being of adolescents. Among her many leadership roles, none is more important than being “mom”. She views parenting as a frontline for social justice work and continues to be humbled by the lessons her children teach her. You can find her at www.courageousparents.com
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
10:18 This sounds right.
Punishment worked for me when it pointed out the grievous nature of what i did. My folks generally didnt punish because I had clear parameters of what was expected and i followed them. My folks were abusive and yelled and hit me for things that made them feel small, not things that were wrong. That’s what makes for developing CPTSD.
Asking for permission before giving advice is a wonderful quality.