A mother whose son killed himself just six hours after being targeted by “sextortionists” is campaigning to raise awareness.
Jordan DeMay died in 2022 after brothers Samuel and Samson Ogoshi targeted him from Lagos, pretending to be an attractive girl his age, and then blackmailed him with explicit images of himself.
Now, his mother, Jenn Buta, is using the TikTok account Jordan set up for her to warn young people about such criminals, largely based in Nigeria – and her videos have more than a million “likes”.
Nigerian police have told BBC News any suggestion they are not taking the crimes seriously is “laughable”.
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Nigeria men are sooo evil. I’m sure they wanted to get arrested, brought to us.ws us jails were club med compared to Nigeria and they will get out in USA.their dream
Look into jails in Nigeria. Are like being in the 1st century. A slab cement,cockroaches,bugs, no mattress, no sheet, no nothing from what I read,expected primitive.lagos Nigeria is very poor, most don’t have roads, just dirt roads, they haul livestock, a real 3rd world country( Lagos) very poor as you hear about fake Nigerian rich prince schemes?;
Nuke Nigeria.
This recently happened to me, in fact as I write it happened this day. I know why I didn’t care when they threatened to expose the pictures. Becouse lost of my friends sext so I didn’t worry about their judgment. If my employers saw it, I don’t really care becouse sexting is not exactly taboo in modern culture I would say, but in fact quite common at least where I’m from in the UK. If my parents saw it, well they are from generation X and had the sort of upbringing in the UK were sexting I believe would be considered a taboo from their culture and a shameful act. Yet I could live with their judgment becouse I know they love me no matter what, even if they judge me a degenerate not that I think sexting is a degenerate act only I believe they would. And I suppose that’s all there is to worry about, am I missing something? I don’t know why someone would kill themselves over sexting other than extreme embarrassment and fear of shame and judgment from those around them they care most about, so rather than face it they end their life.
I wont deny, realising that I had sent nudes some creep online instead of a real girl that was interested was embarrassing, but I suppose a big help for my lack of care was my experience in going to the hospital. I had a diabetic attack and discovered I have diabetes type 1. In there I had to piss in a box they gave me, be showered by another man and even wet myself as a 23 year old man because I was unable to walk to the toilet at the time. So embarrassing and it rid me of my dignity, perhaps that was more of a good thing, perhaps if I had not had that experience I would not be numb to embarrassing situations. I puked up on the bus to collage more than once in front of everyone and well that helped in its own way to help me grow numb to embarrassment.
The point I’m making is that in order to prevent suicide due to sexting is to normalise sexting. Which at least around where I live or at the very least in my social circle of men, it is normal. For kids though yeah its different, solution: parents, upon realising the risk of sexting, console your children or child, immediately/asap go to them and tell them that if they ever do sexting, that you will still love them and wont hate them. If you’ve been or become a victim of sexting, remember that others have gone through it as well, you are not alone and don’t give in to fear, it happened, get over it and move on. It is very rare I believe that people will care after a month that you did sexting, vast majority of the time people forget and move on. Soo don’t fear judgment, embrace it, accept it, and master it. And to anyone who is not a victim, keep all this in mind as well as this: always be ready to accept the risks and consequences of sexting when you send nudes to a stranger who may or may not be whom they claim to be.