FOR THE FELLAS — Reality Check: When the Cameras Stop Rolling
The concept of reality TV has always been questioned — where does the real end and the performance begin? In this thought-provoking episode of For The Fellas, host Brian McIntosh sits down with three men who live their lives in front of the lens to unpack the cost, the pressure, and the truth behind what we call “reality.
From the lights and edits to the real emotions that can’t be scripted, this episode holds up a mirror to how Black men are portrayed, perceived, and positioned in today’s entertainment landscape.
Joining Brian on the couch are:
➡️ Mendeecees Harris — a Love & Hip Hop legend, father, husband, and entrepreneur who’s kept it real through thirteen seasons of one of TV’s biggest reality franchises.
➡️ Karlous Miller — comedian, podcaster, and cultural voice of the South known for bringing raw truth and humor to every stage, screen, and mic.
➡️ Ollie Sutherland — the UK’s own Love Is Blind star, proving that Black love knows no borders and that vulnerability can be global.
Together, these men go beyond the headlines and social clips to have a real conversation about fame, family, love, and the blurred lines between reality and real life.
00:00 – 01:56 | Meet the Fellas: Living Life On Reality TV
01:56 – 02:52 | The Business Behind Reality TV
02:53 – 04:35 | Why Our Culture Is Drawn to Reality Television
04:36 – 06:37 | The Appeal of Drama & Conflict On-Screen
06:38 – 07:50 | Reality TV Across the Pond: The U.K. Perspective
07:51 – 11:40 | Mendeecees’ Journey into Love & Hip Hop
11:41 – 21:23 | How Reality TV Shapes & Selects Relationship Storylines
21:24 – 27:00 | Being the “Supporting Cast” in a Woman’s Story
27:01 – 28:26 | Fatherhood & Fame: The Stakes of Being Seen
28:27 – 30:36 | Online vs. Real Life: Cancel Culture in Today’s Climate
30:37 – 32:56 | Rebuilding Trust in the Public Eye
32:57 – 38:46 | Growing With Your Partner While the World Watches
38:47 – 40:47 | The Weight Black Men Carry in the Spotlight
40:48 – 47:15 | Love Languages: Do Men Need Affirmation Too?
47:16 – 52:40 | How Much Influence Should Your Partner Have on Your Confidence?
52:41 – 57:42 | Protecting Your Mental Health as a Public Figure
57:43 – End | Closing Thoughts & Words for the Fellas
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Real conversation starts in the comments. What stood out to you the most from this episode? 🖤
Getting to hear from Mendeecees speak. I never assumed anything about them. I did feel Rasheeda and Kirk were threatened because a younger married couple was coming on the show.
Congratulations to Ollie and AD!!! At first I thought having OD in the conversation would not as beneficial but he provided a fresh outlook on love while Mendeeces offered transparency with him and Yandy. I hope nothing but the best for all the couples
It’s not love is Blind
It’s Perfect Match 😮
Karlous not being able to speak on certain things because He’s not married. 🤭
EVERYTHING about technology is rooted in EVIL AND CORRUPTION !
HE is the Prince of the POWER OF THE AIR 🐉
AIRWAVES & COMMUNICATIONS 🐲
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Why do ppl love reality tv?
In the LAST DAYS PPL WILL BE LOVERS OF SELF
recognize the sign of the times !
Hats off to all of you guys for sharing your stories and wisdom
Helluva conversation fellas